©Millie McNabb
“The efficient person gets the job done right.The effective person gets the right job done.”
When I came across that quote today it reminded me about a leadership book I read in the past. (If I come across the title, I’ll post it later.) The point of the book was making the distinction between a leader and a manager. Both have necessary skills and abilities for the task at hand, but they serve different functions.
Each person has strengths. The purpose of a temperament profile is to identify those strengths. Part of temperament coaching, is to help people build teams that enhance their strengths and fill in for their weaknesses.
As parents, it’s easy to focus on a child’s weaknesses and spend our time in that area. This may prove frustrating for both parties. As a temperament coach, I suggest establishing an acceptable minimal level for “weakness” areas, and focus on developing the child’s strengths.
Here’s another parenting tip: Family is the training ground for the real life. Teach your children how to work as a team, letting each member do what they do best.
“The one who plants and the one who waters work as a team with the same purpose. Yet they will be rewarded individually, according to their own hard work.”
(I Corinthians 3:8)
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Order your Temperament Profile today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
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Friday, April 3, 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Health Fair
©Millie McNabb
My daughter participated in a health fair and I helped at her booth. It is always interesting to talk with the people that stop by, and fascinating to watch the people whether they stop or not.
Ours was one of the few holistic booths in a convention hall of traditional medicine. Some people studiously ignored us. They would glance at our display, ignore our greeting, and walk on. If they did stop, their comment was often, “I don’t need that. I’m good.”
There were people who didn’t know that we—or any other display—existed. Usually they were in a group and were walking around the fair talking with each other and not paying attention to the displays. One group of three women reminded me of flight attendants. They walked purposely past all other displays to their destination--a weight loss booth.
There were three groups of preschoolers-on-a-string. I imagine their favorites were the pig lung, the therapy dogs, and the booths with candy and balloons. Cookies were available at the host table, which I thought was incongruous for a health fair.
My favorite people, and the reason we participate in health fairs, are the couples or friend groups who see something on our display, and say to each other, “Maybe they can help you.” We probably can help them.
In Luke 8:1-15 Jesus told a story about the sower who had varying success depending on where the seed fell. The sower was faithful to sow the seed; the results depended on the soil where it fell.
Whether it’s health news, God’s Word, or homeschool lessons we’re sowing, we need to be faithful to scatter the seed. Even the good soil would produce nothing without seed. Do you have any stories of faithful sowing that took root over time?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
My daughter participated in a health fair and I helped at her booth. It is always interesting to talk with the people that stop by, and fascinating to watch the people whether they stop or not.
Ours was one of the few holistic booths in a convention hall of traditional medicine. Some people studiously ignored us. They would glance at our display, ignore our greeting, and walk on. If they did stop, their comment was often, “I don’t need that. I’m good.”
There were people who didn’t know that we—or any other display—existed. Usually they were in a group and were walking around the fair talking with each other and not paying attention to the displays. One group of three women reminded me of flight attendants. They walked purposely past all other displays to their destination--a weight loss booth.
There were three groups of preschoolers-on-a-string. I imagine their favorites were the pig lung, the therapy dogs, and the booths with candy and balloons. Cookies were available at the host table, which I thought was incongruous for a health fair.
My favorite people, and the reason we participate in health fairs, are the couples or friend groups who see something on our display, and say to each other, “Maybe they can help you.” We probably can help them.
In Luke 8:1-15 Jesus told a story about the sower who had varying success depending on where the seed fell. The sower was faithful to sow the seed; the results depended on the soil where it fell.
Whether it’s health news, God’s Word, or homeschool lessons we’re sowing, we need to be faithful to scatter the seed. Even the good soil would produce nothing without seed. Do you have any stories of faithful sowing that took root over time?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Choose a Spouse: Matching Socks
©Millie McNabb
When my husband needs new black socks, we get rid of all the old ones, and buy a dozen matching socks so that we don’t spend needless time pairing them up after laundry day. The concept is sound, but this last batch we got, was not as well-matched as we imagined.
We got four packages of the same brand from the same rack. They seemed to be alike, but laundry day told a different story. When I put them side by side, some definitely had a brown cast to them. (I hadn’t thought to check the dye lot numbers.) Then there is the length. Who was in charge of quality control anyway? They vary by almost two inches. (How would you check for that at the store?)
Matchmaking in marriages can be like that, too. We start with the sound concept in II Corinthians 6:14. “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” Then things start to come out in the laundry.
Watch for “Checking the Dye Lot” on my blog next week for more thoughts on that.
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
When my husband needs new black socks, we get rid of all the old ones, and buy a dozen matching socks so that we don’t spend needless time pairing them up after laundry day. The concept is sound, but this last batch we got, was not as well-matched as we imagined.
We got four packages of the same brand from the same rack. They seemed to be alike, but laundry day told a different story. When I put them side by side, some definitely had a brown cast to them. (I hadn’t thought to check the dye lot numbers.) Then there is the length. Who was in charge of quality control anyway? They vary by almost two inches. (How would you check for that at the store?)
Matchmaking in marriages can be like that, too. We start with the sound concept in II Corinthians 6:14. “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” Then things start to come out in the laundry.
Watch for “Checking the Dye Lot” on my blog next week for more thoughts on that.
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Haircuts and Such
©Millie McNabb
One of my daughters is also a temperament coach. She delights in identifying people with choleric traits by their hair style. The choleric is the take-charge person, and their hair is under control, and often at attention. (Think drill sergeant hair.)
Paul (Saul) is one of the more notable people in the Bible with choleric traits. He was going full blast persecuting Christians. “Now Saul, still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest… (Acts 9:1) When he was converted, he was still going full blast, but his focus changed to converting others to Christianity. “But Saul kept increasing in strength and confounding the Jews who lived at Damascus by proving that this {Jesus} is the Christ.” (Acts 9:22)
God uniquely designed Paul for the work which He had chosen for him. “But the Lord said to him, ‘Go, for he is a chosen instrument of Mine, to bear My name before the Gentiles and kings and the sons of Israel…’.” (Acts 9:15) God has uniquely designed each of us for His purposes.
How have you seen God’s design in your life?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers temperament and parenting coaching. Order your individual temperament profile or a family package today at http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
One of my daughters is also a temperament coach. She delights in identifying people with choleric traits by their hair style. The choleric is the take-charge person, and their hair is under control, and often at attention. (Think drill sergeant hair.)
Paul (Saul) is one of the more notable people in the Bible with choleric traits. He was going full blast persecuting Christians. “Now Saul, still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest… (Acts 9:1) When he was converted, he was still going full blast, but his focus changed to converting others to Christianity. “But Saul kept increasing in strength and confounding the Jews who lived at Damascus by proving that this {Jesus} is the Christ.” (Acts 9:22)
God uniquely designed Paul for the work which He had chosen for him. “But the Lord said to him, ‘Go, for he is a chosen instrument of Mine, to bear My name before the Gentiles and kings and the sons of Israel…’.” (Acts 9:15) God has uniquely designed each of us for His purposes.
How have you seen God’s design in your life?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers temperament and parenting coaching. Order your individual temperament profile or a family package today at http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
Monday, February 23, 2009
Little Mama
©Millie McNabb
When we were homeschooling, there were foundational subjects—the three R’s--that everyone needed to master in order to successfully study anything else. Then there was the “core knowledge” of basic information needed to be able pick up the clues and function well in culture. Lastly there was specialized information—the areas where you went beyond the basics, to help each child become more adept at what interested them.
One of my daughters always wanted to be a mother. God provided three opportunities for her to gain specialized information. When she was about ten, she became a certified sitter as the hospital offered babysitting training. When she was twelve, I was specifically praying about how to incorporate more specialized childcare training in her schooling. A family at church asked her to take care of their two children part-time. At fourteen, the church was looking for a nursery supervisor. They were reluctant to put a teenager in that position, but it turned out to be an ideal situation from both sides.
As a parent, it’s important to help your children see and develop their strengths. God has designed each of us to uniquely serve others. We have been gifted “for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ” (Ephesians 4:12.) It is a privilege to be equipping our children while they are under our care.
What “strength training” are you doing for yourself or children?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
When we were homeschooling, there were foundational subjects—the three R’s--that everyone needed to master in order to successfully study anything else. Then there was the “core knowledge” of basic information needed to be able pick up the clues and function well in culture. Lastly there was specialized information—the areas where you went beyond the basics, to help each child become more adept at what interested them.
One of my daughters always wanted to be a mother. God provided three opportunities for her to gain specialized information. When she was about ten, she became a certified sitter as the hospital offered babysitting training. When she was twelve, I was specifically praying about how to incorporate more specialized childcare training in her schooling. A family at church asked her to take care of their two children part-time. At fourteen, the church was looking for a nursery supervisor. They were reluctant to put a teenager in that position, but it turned out to be an ideal situation from both sides.
As a parent, it’s important to help your children see and develop their strengths. God has designed each of us to uniquely serve others. We have been gifted “for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ” (Ephesians 4:12.) It is a privilege to be equipping our children while they are under our care.
What “strength training” are you doing for yourself or children?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers parenting seminars that focus on passing on your Christian values. Request your free report “Considerations for Intentionally Raising Children to Become Christian Adults” today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
A Novel Idea
©Millie McNabb
I was browsing through a health book I’d read in the past, looking for specific comments that I remembered being in the book. It was frustrating, because there was no index. The table of contents was of some help, but I still had to read much more than material than I had hoped.
One of the things I read was in the preface. I did not remember it from before, but it gave me a chuckle, and took away my frustration. Here’s what it said: “This book is intended to be read as a ‘novel’.… This is the reason why it does not have an index.”
Parenting can be frustrating, too. We can be working with a child and the things we’re saying seem to make no sense to the child. From our perspective, their behavior is making no sense. Often, knowing the “novel” design of your child can open a new chapter in your relationship.
God designed each of us with certain temperament traits. It affects how we process information, why we are touched emotionally, and how we make decisions. We naturally see things from our design; we can intentionally communicate with others according to their design. Paul was willing to “get outside of himself” to reach others as recorded in I Corinthians 9:22. “To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, so that I may by all means save some.”
Do you have stories to share about intentionally communicating with others according to their design?
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers Temperament Profiles and coaching. Learn more about Temperament Profiles today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
I was browsing through a health book I’d read in the past, looking for specific comments that I remembered being in the book. It was frustrating, because there was no index. The table of contents was of some help, but I still had to read much more than material than I had hoped.
One of the things I read was in the preface. I did not remember it from before, but it gave me a chuckle, and took away my frustration. Here’s what it said: “This book is intended to be read as a ‘novel’.… This is the reason why it does not have an index.”
Parenting can be frustrating, too. We can be working with a child and the things we’re saying seem to make no sense to the child. From our perspective, their behavior is making no sense. Often, knowing the “novel” design of your child can open a new chapter in your relationship.
God designed each of us with certain temperament traits. It affects how we process information, why we are touched emotionally, and how we make decisions. We naturally see things from our design; we can intentionally communicate with others according to their design. Paul was willing to “get outside of himself” to reach others as recorded in I Corinthians 9:22. “To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, so that I may by all means save some.”
Do you have stories to share about intentionally communicating with others according to their design?
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers Temperament Profiles and coaching. Learn more about Temperament Profiles today at www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Many Counselors
The temperature is hovering just above zero, and we had snow today. It was somewhat surreal driving home after dark. The road was ice-coated with snow over the top. There were ruts in the snow, which were partially filled with drifted snow. The drifts would pull the car to one side or the other, as I encountered them.
It brought to mind a conversation I’d had with my mother-in-law years ago. I was going into town in the wintertime, and she asked me which way I was going. I told her, and she said, “I don’t go that way when it’s slick. You have to stop at that intersection, and then when you turn right, it’s hard to get up that hill.” I hardly noticed the hill in summertime driving, but in the winter, it was significant. I chose a different route.
Whether it’s driving conditions or parenting, it’s good to have someone with experience to advise you. As the Bible says, “With many counselors, plans succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)
Who are some of the counselors that you have had in life?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers coaching for individuals, couples, parents, teachers, and homeschoolers. http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
It brought to mind a conversation I’d had with my mother-in-law years ago. I was going into town in the wintertime, and she asked me which way I was going. I told her, and she said, “I don’t go that way when it’s slick. You have to stop at that intersection, and then when you turn right, it’s hard to get up that hill.” I hardly noticed the hill in summertime driving, but in the winter, it was significant. I chose a different route.
Whether it’s driving conditions or parenting, it’s good to have someone with experience to advise you. As the Bible says, “With many counselors, plans succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)
Who are some of the counselors that you have had in life?
God bless….
Millie McNabb, founder of Christian Values Legacy, offers coaching for individuals, couples, parents, teachers, and homeschoolers. http://www.christianvalueslegacy.com./
Sunday, December 14, 2008
A Sense of Adventure
There was a prize giveaway at the mall Saturday, and our daughter was chosen to be one of twenty-five contestants. Each contestant had an opportunity to get elbow-deep in mashed potatoes and gravy, searching for numbered golf balls. After all the golf balls had been retrieved, they announced and awarded prizes that had been pre-associated with the numbers. Our daughter won hair cut certificates. The grand winner got a dirt bike, and he was ecstatic.
I remember a church Christmas party when the girls were little. The organizer asked for volunteers to perform “The Twelve Days of Christmas.” This same daughter, about age 5, joined the group without hesitation. She has exhibited this sense of adventure in many ways through the years.
From an early age, our children reveal their God-given design or temperament. As parents, we want to recognize those tendencies and encourage our children to grow in the way that they are “strongly inclined” (Proverbs 22:6.)
What traits did you recognize early on in your children, and how did you encourage them in developing those traits?
God bless…
Millie McNabb, BA, BMus
Temperament Profiles, strategies and coaching for parents who are intentionally raising children to become Christian adults. www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com
I remember a church Christmas party when the girls were little. The organizer asked for volunteers to perform “The Twelve Days of Christmas.” This same daughter, about age 5, joined the group without hesitation. She has exhibited this sense of adventure in many ways through the years.
From an early age, our children reveal their God-given design or temperament. As parents, we want to recognize those tendencies and encourage our children to grow in the way that they are “strongly inclined” (Proverbs 22:6.)
What traits did you recognize early on in your children, and how did you encourage them in developing those traits?
God bless…
Millie McNabb, BA, BMus
Temperament Profiles, strategies and coaching for parents who are intentionally raising children to become Christian adults. www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Temperamental Adjustment
Brrr! I was just taking a shower to warm up after being out in the cold weather. (We have snow on the ground.) I was “bonding” with the water, as my daughter says, and reached down to warm it up a bit. Suddenly, the water went cold. I overcame the shock, and quickly readjusted the temperature.
The cold water is temperamental. The valve has a spot near shut-off, where it lets a greater volume of cold water through. Usually I remember to compensate for that spot, but tonight I forgot.
We all have, and know people who have, “temperamental” spots. We get to know those spots, and compensate for those idiosyncrasies. That’s part of temperament coaching. That’s part of a love relationship. “Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8.)
Have you had to make temperamental adjustments in your relationships?
God bless…
Millie McNabb, B.A., B.Mus.
Temperament coaching for individuals, couples, parents, teachers and homeschoolers. www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com
The cold water is temperamental. The valve has a spot near shut-off, where it lets a greater volume of cold water through. Usually I remember to compensate for that spot, but tonight I forgot.
We all have, and know people who have, “temperamental” spots. We get to know those spots, and compensate for those idiosyncrasies. That’s part of temperament coaching. That’s part of a love relationship. “Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8.)
Have you had to make temperamental adjustments in your relationships?
God bless…
Millie McNabb, B.A., B.Mus.
Temperament coaching for individuals, couples, parents, teachers and homeschoolers. www.ChristianValuesLegacy.com
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